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XX/XY (2002)

Three friends begin a dangerous three-way relationship that spirals out of control, leading to dire consequences that haunt them ten years later.


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Cast overview, first billed only:
Mark Ruffalo ... Coles
Maya Stange ... Sam
Kathleen Robertson ... Thea
Kel O'Neill ... Sid
Ben Tolpin ... Guy at College Party
William Keeler William Keeler ... Boss
Paula Roth Paula Roth ... Mom
Lee Cobb Lee Cobb ... Stepfather
Zach Shaffer ... Nick
John A. MacKay John A. MacKay ... Mitchell
Tommy Nohilly ... Undercover Cop
Jeff Ward ... Stunt Cop #1
Keith Siglinger Keith Siglinger ... Stunt Cop #2
Evan Neumann Evan Neumann ... Guy Who Asks for His $ Back (as Evan Neuman)
Petra Wright ... Claire


When two college students, Sam and Thea, meet Coles at a party, their mutual attraction is immediate, leading to a passionate and awkward night together, and the onset of an intensely charged bond. As they continue to push the sexual boundaries of their friendship, however, they are tested by Sam and Coles' incipient romance and Thea's increasing recklessness, until the relationship dissolves amid a cloud of fear, resentment and mistrust. Eight years later they reunite. An animator for a high-profile ad agency, Coles now lives with Claire, his girlfriend of five years. Thea is happily married to Miles, with whom she owns a flourishing restaurant. And Sam has just returned to Manhattan after working in London where she recently broke off her engagement. Yet upon reconnecting, the three are drawn back into the complicated dynamic that defined their relationship from the start and are forced to confront the true meaning of commitment and love. Written by Sujit R. Varma

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There's no room for honesty in a healthy relationship...


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Motion Picture Rating (MPAA)

Rated R for sexuality, language, and brief drug use | See all certifications »

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Release Date:

18 July 2003 (Portugal) See more »

Also Known As:

XX/XY See more »

Filming Locations:

New York City, New York, USA


Box Office

Opening Weekend USA:

$17,089, 13 April 2003

Gross USA:


Cumulative Worldwide Gross:

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Technical Specs


Sound Mix:

Dolby Digital



Aspect Ratio:

2.35 : 1
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Did You Know?


A married couple that Director Austin Chick knew, were so affected by the emotional repercussions of their friend's film, that they started divorce proceedings shortly after seeing it. See more »


Guy who asks for his $ back: I saw your picture once in filmmaker magazine and I saw your movie.
Coles: Oh, yeah.
Guy who asks for his $ back: Yeah, I really didn't like it much.
Coles: Uh, I'm sorry.
Guy who asks for his $ back: I was kind of wondering, can I have my money back?
Coles: Um, you know that ticket you bought, I didn't get any of that money. It all went to the distributor and executive producers. I didn't see a dime.
Guy who asks for his $ back: But you made it, you're responsible.
Coles: What was it, eight bucks?
Guy who asks for his $ back: Nineteen. I took a girl. She didn't like it at all either. She said she thought it was morally reprehensible, ...
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References Eyes Wide Shut (1999) See more »


Love Lies Bleeding
Written by Rupert Keiller and Adrian Cartwright
Performed by Sonicanimation
Licensed courtesy Global Recordings Pty Ltd.
Published by Festival Music Publishing, Australia ASCAP
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I feel nothing
5 September 2012 | by hall895See all my reviews

Perhaps the most damning thing you can say about a movie is that it stirs no feelings in you. If you absolutely hate a movie, well at least you feel something. XX/XY denies you even that. There's nothing worth hating. But there's certainly nothing to love either. There's just nothing, an emptiness. The story doesn't engage, the characters inspire no reaction. It's very bland, rather monotonous and sorely lacking in entertainment value.

XX/XY is the story of a young man, Coles, played by Mark Ruffalo with a silly mustache. Coles meets young college student Sam. That would be a girl Sam by the way, played by Maya Strange. And Sam has a wild child roommate, Thea, played by Kathleen Robertson. Right after the trio meet they make their way to the bedroom for an exceedingly awkward threesome. They end up in a weird sort of friendship with Coles and Sam a couple and Thea floating around off to the side. And then Coles, who is at heart a jerk, does some jerky things and the whole thing implodes.

It is now years later. You can tell it's years later because Coles no longer has a mustache. Now he's in a long-term relationship with a woman named Claire. They're not married but they may as well be, that's the type of relationship they have. And then out of the clear blue sky Sam shows up and you can guess what happens from there. Jerky Coles decides he's wanted Sam all along. Wild child Thea re-enters the picture too, although she's not wild anymore, actually settled down and showing some signs of maturity. Maturity is clearly not something Coles possesses. He acts like a spoiled child and screws things up all over again. Sam's not much better. Poor Claire is there to serve as the aggrieved party, someone for you to feel sorry for. But again this movie really fails to make you feel anything. The key characters are unsympathetic, but not so much so that you can muster up any hate for them. The movie just sits there, nothing grabs you. It's all very predictable, it's not all very entertaining. The best thing you can say about the movie is that the performances are pretty good. It's a fine cast, they just have no material to work with. The focus is on the trio from the first part of the film but if there's any truly memorable moment in the whole film it belongs to Claire. She has a moment where she states the truth about all that has gone on, bluntly and honestly, something nobody else is willing to do. It's a strong moment for the character and for actress Petra Wright. But the movie can't even let us have that moment. It cheapens it, essentially nullifies it, later on by having Claire do something she quite simply should not do. In a smarter, better movie she would do no such thing. Here it's the final unsatisfying piece in an unsatisfying film.

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